Thanks for visiting.
What I write about on this site is designed to help couples intentionally reconnect! My goal is to help you be more intentional about improving your marriage.
But first, a little about who I am.
Who Are You?
I have been married for 13 years. We have two kids (11 and 6).
The only live TV I watch is college basketball (Go Duke!), the NFL, and the NBA. I like binge watching. I hate snakes. I love riding bike trails, when I have the time. I love almost anything peanut butter and chocolate. I can spend hours detailing my car.
And I will die on this hill: turkey bacon is a travesty! Ok — a little dramatic.
Why Should I Trust You?
Good question. Yes, I am a licensed clinician. Yes, I work with couples, professionally. And yes, I have been married for 13 years.
And yet, that doesn’t mean you should just trust me.
I’ll gain your trust through my writing, as well as, my authenticity, consistency, and grappling with relationship challenges.
Life isn’t black and white. We live in a complex world. We exist in complex relationships. I can offer what makes a marriage tick, and how you can reconnect with your partner, but it still may need to be molded to fit your relationship.
With that said, I’m good with earning your trust.
Why Should I Read Your Blog?
Why wouldn’t you? It’s line by line of pure, unadulterated goodness!
Seriously, my blog is not for everyone. I will be writing for those of you feeling as if your relationship is lacking the spark it once had. I will be writing for readers in committed relationships who:
- Are having difficulty connecting with his or her partner.
- Are dealing with the discovery of an affair.
- Are having trouble navigating difficult conversations.
- Are tired of having the same argument over and over again.
- Need someone to point them in the right direction.
- Need to hear, “hey, it feels hopeless but you can get through this.”
Sometimes you forget how important you are to one another. I want to remind you of that. As well as offer guidance and objectivity.
This is not a personal blog. You won’t find stories about what I ate for dinner, my favorite vacation spot, or bike trail adventures.
You will find my personal touch, and my personality weaved in and throughout the posts, though. But, ultimately, my goal is to help couples like you reconnect.
What Else Should I Know?
Join my weekly mailing list so you can receive new blog posts. You’ll also receive my helpful PDF “21 Listening Tips That Will Help You Reconnect With Your Partner.”
Don’t worry, I won’t overwhelm your inbox. One post per week. Any emails outside of that will be few, and far between.
I welcome your emails. Email me your questions, and thoughts. I answer every single email.
Invite others — Send them the link to get my free PDF. Share blog posts on your social media platforms.
How Do I Connect With You?
Is it just me, or does it often feel like when you submit information to those contact forms on websites, your information drops into a deep dark hole, never to be seen again? No? Just me?
Here’s how to connect directly with me…
- Sign up for my weekly mailing list.
- Contact me via email.
- Connect with me on Twitter.
- Connect with me on Instagram.
What If I Want Couples Therapy?
It’s a real experience to sometimes become exhausted from ongoing cycles of distress with your partner. Your attempts to “fix it” fall short; followed by more negative interactions.
At this point, your relationship becomes defined by resentment and distance. In couples therapy, my goal is to help you strengthen your connection, and rediscover how important you are to each other.
Let’s Do It
I believe intimate relationships are important. They have the opportunity to offer emotional support for the ups and downs of life.
And, it sucks, when that important relationship has dwindled down to simply tolerating each other. Let me help you reconnect.
“The world is less intimidating when you have another to count on, and know that you are not alone.” ~ Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight