Today starts a 4 post series on how to communicate better in your relationship. We’ll talk about the Four Horsemen (Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling), coined by relationship expert John Gottman.
Today’s post is about criticism.
Chronic withdrawal leaves a relationship deprived, and partners lonely. The withdrawn partner feels arguing is not worth the trouble. He or she talks less, finds reasons to leave for work early, and goes to bed later. The relationship grows in distress with each passing day.
Recognizing the difference between shame and guilt is an important step towards repairing your marriage after an affair. Don’t squander opportunities to help their spouse heal because of the devastating impact of shame.
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There are times when your spouse needs you to simply listen, without giving advice. Your attention to their distress may be more important than your opinion.